Online Romance ? making your dreams come true

Relationships that start from a virtual acquaintance may be as fun and as disappointing as relationships that start in a more common manner. I usually follow a few simple rules to avoid the disappointing part and make the best of every opportunity.

Know where you?re going I have quite a few female friends, not all of them I view as potential dates. So one of the first things I usually do when I meet a new girl online is find out what her intentions are from the start. Some girls seek romance, others ? family, yet others expect nothing but a virtual relationship from a virtual acquaintance. Depending on your own goals prioritize your efforts wisely. It?s rather useless wasting time trying to persuade a girl to marry you and come to live in your country, if she?s only ready for chitchat with you every now and then. Keep in mind that intentions are subject to change ? you never know when a girl can suddenly decide that after all this chitchat she just absolutely has to marry you! But hey, what?s life without such surprises!!

Personalize Correspondence for both of you is a way of having some extra fun in life. I don?t want to limit my fun to just one person, and I don?t expect that from every girl I write to. If I want to change my status from ?a guy who?s letters she adores? to ?her one and only?, I make my letters really personal and let her know I really care. At the same time I don?t have to become a sappy creep asking for the details of her recent visit to the dentist. Nothing keeps the air between you so charged as teasing her harmlessly about the fact she?d failed her driving exams for the third time.

Don?t stall I?ve noticed that if I postpone meeting in person with an online acquaintance too long, usually one of the two things happens. One, either one of you can think up an image too far from reality and end up disappointed when you finally meet. Two, you get to know each other virtually so much that you absolutely lose interest in ever meeting in flesh and blood. The latter may seem good in a way, but women are mysterious creatures, they like to seem something they are not. She can be a killjoy and a complete bore in her emails, and an outrageous experimentalist in bed. All I?m saying, one month of correspondence is more than enough for a first face to face date. Get to it before you develop all sorts of wrong ideas about her based on what she says, instead of what she really is.

Make it real I provide photos with every other letter. Why? It gives her a glimpse of my real life, an insight into what I?m up to at work or after. Photos keep her interest increasing, yet don?t let her develop unrealistic expectations. She may not want to re-read your letter a few times, but she?ll definitely have a better look at the photos you provide.

I believe dating on and offline should be taken as an adventure, not heartbreak. Of course, a reasonable share of disappointment is inevitable, but there?s absolutely no need in overreacting if something you hoped for didn?t work out exactly as you wished it to. Contact loads of ladies, befriend dozens, choose a few with who you?d like to meet and see what happens next. And never forget that for every girl that says ?No?, there are ten who would say ?Yes, sure!?

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Oksana Lykova

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